Top Ten Things You shouldn't say to a Diabetic

Let me start by saying that I have made all of the comments below.  I can remember really getting after my dad for not taking care of his diabetes that way I thought he should.  I remember telling him that I wanted my kids to have a grandpa and he needed to do better at controlling the disease.  I don't think I said it that nice.  Hello!!!!  Guilt trip city.  I got after my older brother for not taking care of himself.  I did it out of love, because I love them.  Because I don't want this disease to take them from me.  I thought I was right. Then I got gestational diabetes.

For only 5 months I needed to follow a diabetic regimen.  It was hard.  I was lousy at it.  I hated it.  I felt deprived.  And it dawned on me, I was wrong!  My dad and my brother were doing the very best they could.  It is hard. And while my diagnosis would reverse as soon as I gave birth, they have no end in sight.  They live with the disease everyday. 

I have changed my responses.  My diabetic friend was eating a piece of cake and a friend walked up and said, "don't eat that, it's not good for you."  My friend said, "don't tell me what to do."  Can you blame her?  

We all want to help our friends who are diabetic.  We find ourselves thinking, "they shouldn't eat that."  But should we really say it?  Well, probably not.  Here are the most common comments that I have heard, or made and a better way to say it.  :)



1) Should you be eating that?  ---  My response, in my head, is usually, "what's it to ya?"  This is one that you shouldn't say period.  There is no sweet way to say it.  Leave it alone and trust that a diabetic knows what they can or can't have.

2) I made everyone this for dessert, but I made you this. ---  Really?  I'm not a child who is unable to abstain if needed.  But you were trying to do something nice.  How about this instead: (announce to everyone) "for those who would rather not have so much sugar, I have made this.  For those who would like to splurge, I have made this.  Please enjoy."  Now, don't get upset if the diabetic splurges.  They spend most of their life going without, once in a while it's okay to have that beautiful dessert you made.

3) You aren't taking care of yourself. ---  If you are a spouse, a parent, or a doctor you can say this.  If you are a buddy that meets for lunch once in a while, uh uh.  Don't say it.  Better is this:  "I don't know much about diabetes.  Please tell me what you have to do to manage the disease."  Mostly this is reserved for close friends.

4) Don't eat that. ---  this is usually followed by a grab for the offending food item.  Again, unless you think the item has been poisoned, don't say this.

5) Oh, you can't eat there can you.  We'll pick a different restaurant. --- Diabetics live in the real world and learn how to navigate menus.  If you want to be sensitive to where a diabetic will enjoy a meal, a better way to ask is: "Do you have a preference for where we eat?" 

6) Wow, I've heard of all the problems diabetes causes, like blindness.  Does that freak you out?---  YES!!!!!!!  Yes they are very freaked out.  They never get to stop worrying about it.  If you are close friends, you can ask this.  But time it well and start with, "I know there are some complications with diabetes, if you ever want to talk about that, I'm here for you."  Or even " Are you worried about your eyesight and all the complications that go along with diabetes?" Most of the time, they don't want to think about the disease, but trust me, 4 times a day, when they are pricking themselves with a needle to test their sugars, they are very well aware of what the disease is doing to their bodies.

7) I know you're diabetic, but I just had to share this plate of cookies with you.  ---   Better: "Hey, I really wanted to share some cookies I made, so I brought you 2, just so you would know I was thinking of you."  Or even better:  "I made you some bath salts, or I made you a card, or a phone call ahead with a "I just made some cupcakes that I would like to share with you, can I bring you one or a dozen?" and let them say- "oh just one." or "oh I'm so glad you thought of me.  I don't need treats, but I'd love a visit.  or even "heck yeah!  I've been so good this week.  I want the whole dozen." (As an aside, the diabetics I know, don't love sugary treats dropped off to temp them, but they love loaves of wheat bread with low sugar jam, or a quart of strawberries with a bit of whipped cream.)

8) You are so amazing, I could NEVER go without sugar. (sometimes followed by stuffing the face with a giant cupcake.) ---  Um, they didn't get diabetes on purpose.  No hero worship necessary.  Try: "I admire how you have handled this."  Enough said. 

9) If you lose weight will the diabetes go away? ---  Let me answer the question first.  Maybe, maybe not.  There are a lot of things that contribute to diabetes.  Weight is only one of those things.  However, for a diabetic, losing weight is soooo hard.  They have to eat on a schedule.  They have to eat!  And they have to eat enough.  Their bodies hold on to the weight.  Don't remind them of their shortcomings.

10) Is it contagious? --- No no no no no!  It is not contagious.  However, for many in America, it is preventable.  You can't catch it, but you can develop it, so keep working on becoming the healthiest you possible.

Funeral Potatoes - Healthified ... Mostly

Funeral Potatoes - Healthified

  If you are not from the Northwest, then you have probably never heard of Funeral Potatoes.  If that is the case, I am truly sorry. You have been denied the ultimate comfort food for far too long.  Funeral potatoes, or at least the name, probably originated in Utah. An organization called the Relief Society made it famous.  This organization, which just happens to be the largest service based womens organization in the world, is often called upon to bring meals to a funeral for the family of the deceased.  One of the standard dishes is a cheesey potato casserole that is like heaven in your mouth.

Funeral Potatoes - Healthified

Funeral potatoes are made of bakers (Idaho talk for really large russets), which are shredded.  The potatoes are mixed with a little meat, usually ham, and lots of butter, sour cream, cheese and more butter.  Have I mentioned that they are like heaven in your mouth? MMMMnnnnnnnn.  Anyway, they are served at Northwest funerals so much that they earned the name Funeral Potatoes.  You learn something new every day.

The thing about Funeral Potatoes is that diabetics and anyone watching their weight or fat intake is also denied this little bit of heaven in the mouth.  (I just noticed the irony of Funeral Potatoes tasting like Heaven in your mouth. . . never mind.) Anyway, a sane person does not eat Funeral Potatoes on a regular basis, and a diabetic, just doesn't eat them.  However, I LOVE them and I WANT to eat them.  I really really want to eat them.  So I thought about how I could do this without feeling guilty.

Now I'm not saying that these potatoes should be part of your weekly meal rotation.  These are still fairly decadent.  However, for a special occasion, at least you could enjoy a serving. And I mean really enjoy it, because after all, it is potatoes, yams and carrots.  And it is lower in cheese, sour cream, butter and condensed soup than the original.  It's still creamy and satisfying.  It is still comforting.  It should not shoot your blood sugar levels to the moon, faster than a moon pie, and I promise, the original will.

If you are not diabetic, I highly recommend that you try real Funeral Potatoes at least once in your life.  But if you do, you will want them again.  But if you want them more than once a year, you might try this version and grab a bit more vitamin A for your trouble.  :)


Funeral Potatoes - Healthified

2 large bakers - Idaho Russets
1 large Yam
2 medium carrots
1/2 red onion diced
1/2 C. diced ham OR 2-3 strips bacon, crumbled OR 2-3 strips turkey bacon, crumbled
1 can cream of whatever soup (I used chicken)
2/3 C. Sour Cream OR Greek Yogurt
1/2 C. Low Fat (or not) Cottage Cheese
2/3 C. Swiss Cheese
1/2-2/3 C. Cheddar Cheese
1/4 C. Butter
Salt
White Pepper
Your favorite spices - I used garlic salt, and Old Bay


Peel and grate the russets.  Take a clean kitchen cloth and spread on counter.  Put the grated potatoes on the cloth and wrap it up.  *Over the sink, wring the cloth out and squeeze out all the excess water.  Repeat with the Yam.  Place in a bowl. Grate carrot and place in the same bowl. Add the onion.  Mix.

Take about 1/3 of this mixture and set aside.  I made some yummy hash browns.  You could probably use 1 large and 1 small russet and then you wouldn't have any excess, but I liked the hash browns and I liked the orange to white ratio for appearance and taste.

Add the rest of the ingredients to the mixture still in the bowl.  Stir well and place in a greased 9X13 pan.  Cover with foil and bake at 350 for 35 minutes. Remove foil (add a little cheese on top if desired) and continue to bake for 15-20 minutes.


*If you choose not to squeeze the juice out of your veggies, you will get a creamier sauce.  However, the few that you remove for other uses need to be squeezed if you are going to make them into hash browns like I did.  Removing the moisture is what allows them to crisp up.

Potato, yam and carrot hash-browns.

**In case you were wondering.  I added salt, pepper and Old Bay, along with onion to the yam and potato mixture and I threw them on a waffle iron that had been sprayed with cooking spray.  I cooked for about 10 minutes and they were golden.  Tasted great.  The hardest part was getting them off the iron.  But a little patience and grabbing from the center with a fork and it all worked out.  :)